Anger

The next time you feel angry at a person, see how you are projecting your emotions at another. When we are angry at someone, we are often angry with the choices that we have made or how our expectations weren't met. So the next time you get angry, see what the real issues that lie behind the anger so that you can deal with the emotion and resolve it. For example, I had a client whose child broke an item in the store and had to pay for it. She projected her anger at the child, but her anger was really at the fact that she had to pay for something that she couldn't afford. The reason that the child was with her was that she was running late and she needed to pick the child up from daycare before it closed. So in fact, she was angry with her own time management and need to pay for for a broken object.

We Live By Choice

So many times I hear "I am stuck in..." or "I don't have any choice but to..." and I will say that that person chooses not to step in their power. We have nothing BUT choice! To say that I am stuck in a job because it pays the bills says that you are choosing financial happiness versus personal happiness. To say that my partner won't commit to me when you aren't willing to move or compromise your situation says that my situation is perfect- I am not willing to make room in my life for my partner. What you choose to do is your choice. There may be choices that you may not consider, but they are nevertheless choices. Consequently, participating in life or living on the side line is another choice. So many of us choose to live on the sideline rather than be fully engaged in life. Now this may change from situation to situation, but we choose to sit out because we are afraid that we my get hurt or disappointed by our engagements. Again, it is a choice. Take a moment and reflect about your life. Are you fully committed in your relationships? Or do have one foot out the door, really to bolt? So many of us have exactly that, in fear that we will be rejected. Or perhaps because we feel trapped, afraid that we can't make it alone. Again, the choice is to align with fear. What choices are you making in life? When do you put the shackles on your hands?