It's surprising how much emotional abuse that we take in relationships. Boundaries are broken, ignored or sometimes just don't even exist. We push the line because we know we can get away with it and we manipulate the situation. Out of fear, the abused person relaxes the boundary and the precedent is set.
So what can one do?
Change the rules of the relationship. The abuser will always try to get the rules back to the precedent, but it is up the abused person to enforce the new rules. If that person is a keeper, they will change their habits and adjust to the new rules. If not, then nothing is lost except an abusive relationship and the person will go away.
Sadly, many feel that they need to hang on to the abusive relationship out of fear that they be alone for the rest of their life. And one can manifest that fear into reality should they choose. But when one chooses self- love over fear, they can only gain more love into their life.
It's surprising how much emotional abuse that we take in relationships. Boundaries are broken, ignored or sometimes just don't even exist. We push the line because we know we can get away with it and we manipulate the situation. Out of fear, the abused person relaxes the boundary and the precedent is set.
So what can one do?
Change the rules of the relationship. The abuser will always try to get the rules back to the precedent, but it is up the abused person to enforce the new rules. If that person is a keeper, they will change their habits and adjust to the new rules. If not, then nothing is lost except an abusive relationship and the person will go away.
Sadly, many feel that they need to hang on to the abusive relationship out of fear that they be alone for the rest of their life. And one can manifest that fear into reality should they choose. But when one chooses self- love over fear, they can only gain more love into their life.
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